WOW….I didn’t know ppl was this STUPID! I’m a single soldier of three boys and I love them with all my heart:) I came back frm dwn range April 2010, my husband sent our kids to live with my sister and walked out on his fam…. some single soldier aren’t single by choice! Life happens and for the retards on here with the foolish comments are just PATHETIC! Does that mean I should have been put out. I am a single soldier and mother who perform my duties as a mother and soldier proficiently, so think before you speak bcuz you sound dumb as hell.

Tabatha on July 16, 2011 at 6:29 pm

Things change, people grow apart, and I have only been on one deployment since my son was born, but let me tell you what. . . I did my job and made it home safe. You should focus on the people that mess it up for everyone else, and not make it a mass message about all females. I love my son, and I love my job. I would hat always oput my son before my job, but the Army gives you a chance to make sure you have a plan when you deploy. So, if you dont take that, then you just want to get out. If you dont fight to make sure everything is going to be ok, then you dont want to be in the military. They give you plenty of time to take care of it, and will NOT deploy you without that plan…So, don’t talk about all single mothers just because there are a handful of them that are worthless.

Ashleigh on September 8, 2011 at 4:06 pm

Whoever wrote this article is straight up dumb. Get yourself and your women issues together. We are very talented beings. we can do everything we do in the military , carry a baby, birth a baby and get back to business… it takes alot of sacrifice as it does for a male as well, and you cant use certain ppl to judge all females who are single and in the army with kids .. whoever wrote this is so nieve and a lack of better words, stupid. i feel sorry for whoever wrote this. no life at all.

ashley kay on October 11, 2011 at 1:52 pm

YOU HAVE GOT TO BE JOKING!!!! Please tell me that this was a joke. I am a single parent not by choice but it doesn’t affect my work ethics or job performance. My daughter is very well taken care of. For you to say that ALL single military mothers are not capable of doing their jobs just blows my minds. There are single military fathers with the same issues. I don’t hear you speaking on that. You are a small minded individual that probably has no self worth. I sacrifice alot of time and energy making sure I provide a good life for my child and still being an active mother as well as being in college full time so don’t speak on something based on a few statistics. You don’t live the life we live or put up with crap we put up with. It offends me that you can be a woman and have no clue about what it takes to be a WORKING MOTHER. Lady get a life, better yet JOIN THE MILITARY since you know so much about it.

Marion Nelson on November 14, 2011 at 12:11 pm

What a perfect example of ignorance at its best…you should be ashamed of yourself.

Michelle W. on December 28, 2011 at 8:51 pm

Wow. This article is disrespectful of all single parents on active duty (yes Debbie there are single fathers too). Is it just women in uniform that you hate or did it never occur to you that men are single parents too? Being a single parent on active duty is challenging and stressful but not impossible. I was a single mom for many years while being stationed on an aircraft carrier (U S Navy). My son is college educated, not a drug or alcohol user and not an axe murderer. Being raised by a single Navy mom wasn’t always easy for him but we both knew we were in it together.

Anybody in uniform will tell you that our livelihood can be challenging, whether you are married, single, parents, straight, gay (yes we allow gays to serve openly now. You must really be freaking out). But please, do not pretend to be an expert on something that you CLEARLY know nothing about.

Laura P on December 29, 2011 at 3:26 pm

If you have NEVER served in the US military then keep your mouth shut! I did not create my child alone and I did not choose to raise her alone! What about single fathers serving? Or the numerous men, married or single, who have children at each duty station or port visit they have been to. What HUMAN, and I use the term loosely, in their right mind could have the nerve to say some of the most ridiculous and out right disrespectful things that have been posted here is beyond me. So what she decided to stay behind and care for her child. Would you rather she put him in the system for your tax dollars to raise him? All military members, single parents or not, are the reason you all are allowed to post such ignorance freely! So if it bothers you so much then take her place and do her job! I’m sure you won’t decide to because you enjoy your daily life of sitting behind a computer venting over something that you have NO CLUE about. Ignorance is speaking on a subject that you have no knowledge of and you Debbie are a prime example. God bless your soul because you will surely need it.

Proud Single Navy Mom on January 26, 2012 at 6:45 pm

I have too many thoughts running through my head on how to reply to this article, so I will just say this: You, Miss Streudel, are a complete failure as a decent human being. Go crawl in a hole with your little neo-Nazi pals and stop being a nuisance to society.

Kane Ford on January 27, 2012 at 3:05 am

Bet she never would dare enlist. I see where she is going with this article, here is an objective view… What about single fathers or can you only look at it from a womans point of view? Im a single father on my third deployment. I make it work, I have family and friends that help but none the less dont write an article thinking that only women are single parents in the military. Do us all a favor and shut the hell up and stay out of something you yourself dont even comprehend.

Brian on January 27, 2012 at 5:25 am

The blonde hair on ya ain’t a lie is it. I know dozens of women in the military most are really smart (i’ll admit a couple weren’t that bright but i’ve worked with several dumb male military as well). Also even after pregnancy they continue to be productive. several of my colleagues have gotten pregnant then came back to work. They were given a month or 2 of maternity leave then came back to work. Personally I hope that this article is written just with the intention of inciting fury and gaining attention for your site and not your honest opinion because if it is then I’d have to say that you’re one of those people that needs to be taken out of the gene pool.

evenhead on January 27, 2012 at 9:57 am

A bigger issue is the nature of modern war drenched in political correctness. Most in the West are ignorant of the world around them and thus unsure that total victory over the enemy is the just objective. They are afraid to win against enemies (e.g. Islam) who deserve nothing less than either total annihilation or at a minimum total defeat never to be allowed to take up arms nor to receive aid for renewed growth. Thus everything becomes a limited “police action”. Under these limited terms of war sans all out battles, many women and others feel more prepared to join – the all out horror of war for most has been diminished. Then as Schlussel points out, when things go wrong, the penalty is severe.

On the other hand, in 1948 in Israel, I recall stories of women who fought with the purpose of killing as many men (Arab solders) as possible. For some battles, perhaps it was the fierce fighting of women along side men that gave birth to nation of Israel.

A bigger problem than women in the military seems to be men and women in leadership positions who are too ignorant to realize that we deserve and should fight for absolute victory with all brutal purpose and intent. The enemy as a whole would not survive to hold captive women or other solders. We would utterly slaughter the enemy until the captives were found and when found we would continue by holding those responsible for any poor treatment of our captive solders or other personnel.

The problem is that most in the West including Israel do not know the true nature of Islam and its people and thus are unsure that they deserve utter defeat and that our intent should be total victory. Our purpose is not clear to ourselves due to this ignorance of our enemy. Under these conditions, women and all solders in the military are in grave peril.

philososky on February 14, 2012 at 8:54 am

this only motavates me to join the military as a single parent. i disagree to the fullest about your opinion. i believe that single parents in the force is the best thing possable cuz their not out there being stupid getting drunk, they have someone to fight for and to work for to show the way. they do their job more then anyone to lead by example and set amazing goals for themselves and their babies! eleanor roosevelt said “small minds discuss people, averege minds discuss events, and great minds discuss idea’s” the person who wrote this is a small minded person. ill say no more everyone that commented has commen sence except the person who wrote the article.

olga on March 1, 2012 at 3:25 am

I completely agree with you, Debbie, on this issue. From what I’ve read, Israel allowed women in combat initially, but discovered it didn’t work out too well and banned them from combat while allowing them other military roles. Men and women are different, and their roles as parents are different, and it’s not an insult to women to say that, but simply an acknowledgement of reality.

joan on March 15, 2012 at 9:46 pm

I am 24 yrs old and a single mother. I have been trying to enter the military for a year in a half now and the biggest issue I have had is being a single parent. I have even considered contract marriage bc the military told me I would have to give up custody of my daughter. My question is why do I have to choose the military or my daughter, why not both? Everyone is entitled to their opinion and I believe that whether you are a single father, mother, or guardian you should have the equal rights just as any other person to serve your country. I do see the pros and cons of all the situations involving single parents and it’s tough having to make the impossible choices but those are that persons choice and consequences. Sometimes ppl have to step back and look at the situation. Why should this article or any other article about a single parent mess it up for other single parents who WANT to serve their country, who WANT better for themselves and their children, family and friends. Some people have lost sight of the important things in their lives and what the meaning of this country is and what we stand for and serve for. I love my country and the people in it and my life. My wish for myself is to join the United States military whether I am single or not and serve my country and family and lead by example of a great teacher/s. I will do my best to make a difference and change it where I will be able to serve my country. Will take time but you can do it to if you a single parent. Thank you everyone who are serving in the US military here at home and around the world.

Octavia on April 5, 2012 at 12:33 am

thank

Pastor Joshua Gardner on April 11, 2012 at 9:19 am

Wow, pure ignorance. Maybe this “woman” meant to state this differently but obviously failed. Missy, you are a failure. I’m 30 weeks pregnant and don’t remember ever thinking about getting out of the military. I’m actually already thinking about my deployment next year. Hey, maybe you should come with and document the day and a life of a military member regardless of dependency status.

Vanessa on June 24, 2012 at 7:04 am

I am actually surprised that someone who considers themselves an integral part of society and a well educated person could utter such ignorance and stupidity. I actually have never heard of you, Debbie Schullsel, until I was researching active duty single parents. I am curious, so if a woman who has never missed a deployment, excels at her job, mentors those who work for her decides to divorce her husband due to abuse and infidelities, should she be kicked out of the military because of her new status as a “single parent?” I am shocked by your lack of intelligence, lack of totality of facts concerning single parents on active duty and the audacity to make a request that sets women back a hundred years. I laughed at your statement because women have been a vital part of our military for hundreds of years. Just because you are too weak to walk in our shoes, yes I said “our shoes” because I am a single mom of 6 amazing children and on active duty. I have made multiple deployments and have served my nation proudly. I have a college student, 3 in high school, 1 entering kindergarten and a beautiful toddler. I am proud to say all of my children are doing great, well rounded, honor roll, do community service and are great kids. I retire after 20 years of service, which I might remind you, has allowed you the freedom to speak your studpidity and ignorance freely. So to you I say, you are welcome for the freedom that all women, single moms and single dads have provided people like you.

Elizabeth on August 13, 2012 at 12:51 pm

wow your ignorant!!! there are just as many retard male soldiers as female soldiers…Oh and just because women are the main caregivers for their children they shouldn’t be able to serve and what about single dads in the military do they not have to do the same and take time off for the kids sometimes? Yes they do…us women cant help it that most men cant handle their responsibility so they walk out on their wives leaving them single moms…

bridget on August 20, 2012 at 10:20 am

For all YOU ignorant assholes commenting this article. HAVE YOU EVER HEARD OF SPELLCHECK? Before you come on here calling out Debbie for being “ignorant” and “stupid”, maybe you should go back to elementary school and take English 101.

I’ve seen more grammar and spelling mistakes on all of your ignorant comments on this page than I’ve ever seen in my life. Grow up.

When Debbie says, “single parent” she talking of a young woman who got pregnant out of wedlock and is raising a child on her own without a second parent. Maybe if you all read the article instead of jumping to ridiculous conclusions about her, you’d understand she’s not talking about “the divorcee of an abusive husband” or any other example of a single mother you all can magically think of. ALSO you little ignorant leftist twits, she never said “it can’t work out” or “it’s impossible”, she just said “there is no benefit” and “she is against the idea”. Big difference there.

You see, I’m a woman, and you know what? Maybe Debbie has a point. You’re all too stupid to be in the military. We need women back at home to make sure our children don’t grow up to be ignorant like all of you.

A.G. on August 22, 2012 at 3:01 pm

Wow, I am so sad after reading this. I have been doing research for a project and wanted to find statistics on how many single mothers are in the military currently. I served overseas as a single mother and it has had its price. However, my son has had a few issues and is working through them. He is now a straight A student, and quite the young author. To say we are all ignorant is ignorance at it’s finest. I get why Ms. Schlussel has her opinion, but I will respectfully disagree with it. There are just as many incompetent men in the military as women and I have seen many women do much better than their male counterparts there are just so few of us. Only 19.5% in the Reserves and that is the highest percentage and includes all services, Army, Navy, Air Force etc. I also saw many men have to go home because their wives were not “well” or “couldn’t handle” the separation. Meanwhile, those of us who were single mothers managed just fine because we knew we had to be prepared.
Really, please do your research and have some first hand knowledge then come back to this. None of you have it right. And women in combat? I worked with Combat Support MP’s and the women I worked with were pros and the guys were proud to serve with them.

Sameara on August 27, 2012 at 4:57 pm

I would like to start by saying I agree with a few points in this article. The loss of several good soldiers in the rescue attempts for incompetent female soldiers largely due to the public outcry because these soldiers were female was tragic. However, to plainly state that every woman serving in the United States Military serves in the capacity of a cook or some other menial (and frankly stereotypical) job as that is all they are qualified for is absurd. I am an Army Reservist in the Intelligece Branch for 5 years. I am thankful that I. have not been deployed and I am lucky enough that I am still married and if I had been, my 2 year old. daughter would be in the care of her father. However, if he had not been in the picture, to suggest that I would be one “largely useles soldierette” is not only ignorant, but derogatory. My daughter’s post secondary education is not something she has to worry about thanks to my service in the military. The everal surgeries my daughter has had as a result of congenital hip dysplasia are largely taken care of financially as a result of the excellent healthcare plan I have thanks to the military. But above all I have a securepaycheck

Bryanna on August 27, 2012 at 7:06 pm

I would like to start by saying I agree with a few points in this article. The loss of several good soldiers in the rescue attempts for incompetent female soldiers largely due to the public outcry because these soldiers were female was tragic. However, to plainly state that every woman serving in the United States Military serves in the capacity of a cook or some other menial (and frankly stereotypical) job as that is all they are qualified for is absurd. I am an Army Reservist in the Intelligece Branch for 5 years. I am thankful that I. have not been deployed and I am lucky enough that I am still married and if I had been, my 2 year old. daughter would be in the care of her father. However, if he had not been in the picture, to suggest that I would be one “largely useles soldierette” is not only ignorant, but derogatory. My daughter’s post secondary education is not something she has to worry about thanks to my service in the military. The everal surgeries my daughter has had as a result of congenital hip dysplasia are largely taken care of financially as a result of the excellent healthcare plan I have thanks to the military. But above all I have a secure paycheck that allows me to put food on the table for my family in an unstable economy thanks to the military, or more specifically my decision to serve our. Our country and enlist in the military. Any parent, sin.gle, coparenting, same sex couple parentng, should be given the opportunity to support their country and heir family. This is why the military requires family care plans for single parents. And if you can’t find someone in your life you trust with the well being of your child then perhaps you should reevaluate the company you keep and in the meantime hope you don’t die in a carwreck, random act of violence, get cancer, or any other happenstances.

Bryanna on August 27, 2012 at 7:11 pm

For the many women who wrote in and defended your singlemom status and serving strongly in the Armed Forces, I commend you and thank you for your service to our nation!

Ms. Debbie Schlussel, you really need to “lighten up” and “get a life” or better yet GET YOUR FACTS STRAIGHT bc clearly you lack one! I know why you hate women in uniform is bc you cannot be them and you cannot fulfill that void in your life. Let me just tell you Ms. Schlussel, I know of 1 Ex-E7 (Sergeant First Class) became Warrant Officer now and had just recently graduated with a Bachelor Degree in Bussiness Adm (Magna Cum Laude). She is a single mother in the Army and since you seem to have all of the answers “how do you think she will feel if I told her about your pathetic article”? All you had to do was just say “thank you” that would’ve been sufficed!

Sophea:) on September 3, 2012 at 12:48 am

Theres no real good reason to even write anything because you wont read it. Your only intrested in what YOU have to say. The military isnt for everyone…there are some that cant make it. Its tough, long hours, Physically demanding, and puts stress on the body (mental and Physical). But so does being a PARENT. Have you thought that maybe their single NOT BY CHOICE…oh wait youve never had a man shit on you have you??? You dont know their situation and you dont know them. Their are women that have served their country for years. Put in tour after tour in Iraq, Afghanistan, ect; and your going to come down on them for wanting to start a family!!! The Military should make better accomidations for those who do have children***OH GOD FORBID THEY SPEND MONEY ON SOMETHING ELSE OTHER THAN A WAR*** FYI one rocket costs 250,000 US dollars. OHHHHH HEY LETS BITCH ABOUT THEM BREAST FEEDING IN PUBLIC TOO…THEY SHOULDNT BE FEEDING THEM!! OR HEY LETS TURN A BLIND EYE ON THE FACT THAT THEIR ARE LITERALLY THOUSANDS OF HARD CORE GANG BANGERS ORDERED TO JOIN THE SERVICE BY THEIR LEADERS (NOT TO SERVE THEIR COUNTRY) BUT TO LEARN HOW TO GET BETTER COMBAT TACTICS SO WHEN THEY FORM THEIR OWN GANG… IT CAN COME TO A NEIGHBORHOOD NEAR YOU. oR WAIT WHAT ABOUT ALL THE TROOPS OVER IN IRAQ AS WE SPEAK…FOR WHAT!!!! FUCKING 911 WAS A HUGE COVER UP AND A LIE!!! All because Bush wanted to please his daddy…”man daddy sure is proud of his little cheerleader…good boy bush…daddys proud….heres a fucking war twinkie…now let me mess your hair up real hard like leave it to beaver while I wear this faggot sweater and puff my pipe!!!!!!!!!!” really…really….reeaallly….come on bitch. Your just jelous that everyone of them on their worst day could look, fight, fuck, and smell better than you. Naaa im kiddn, you probabaly smell just fine. Right about now your smelling something burning…thats the friction of me dry fucking you with my lyrics. But hey your right they shouldnt even be there….(its not like the Army dosent let in single moms)…OH WAIT THEY DONT!!! SO THEY MUST HAVE GOT PREGNANT WHILE THEY WERE THERE!!! HoW dArE tHeY GET LAID!! GOD FORBID AFTER A LONG DAY OF FIGHTING FOR OUR FREEDOMS THEY WANT TO COME HOME AND EAT A STEAK…DRINK A BEER…AND TAKE SOME COCK….BUT HEY….SINCE THEY CANT GO IM JUST SURE YOU WOULD GO IN THEIR PLACE…i mean Iraq cant be that bad… can it? wELL YOU PROBABALY WOULDNT WANT TO BREAK A NAIL…OMG…LOL….TWEEN SPEAK….DGH///…KAKAK OR WHATEVE BLONDS AND 10 YEAR OLDS SAY…

Tosh on September 4, 2012 at 9:24 pm

I just want to say thank you to all soldiers especially to those who are single parents. I have been wanting to enlist in the air force reserves and have been given a hard time because I am a single mother. Even despite the fact that I have immediate family that is more then willing to support my son and I. This article is one of the most ridiculous and ignorant articles I have read since I began doing my research on being a single parent in the military. There are single parent police officers and fire fighters that face danger everyday and although that may not compare to being in the military danger is danger no matter the level. Thanks again to all of you serving our country!

Damnerys on September 14, 2012 at 7:07 pm

You sound kinda dumb… No really dumb. That’s why we write out a family care plan and write will. As a marine you get twelve months after your child is born to be undeployable that’s it. I can see if they were gettin pregnant back to back. Pros and cons reflect. That’s when you get kicked out for not being mission capable. But trust me their are single male parents too. Their is no difference smart one. Speak for yourself

marine wyley on September 24, 2012 at 3:47 pm

I would like to first get a few facts straight. Your tax money does NOT in anyway go towards a single military parents childcare. Secondly, I think you do a great dis-service to the numerous single fathers in the military by discounting their importance in assuming that only single mothers are faced with this decision. As a once single mother of an autistic son who has spent over 15 years in the military and deployed more than 5 times within the last 8 years I can assure you it is not easy, but I made a choice and ultimately the choice to serve my country will prove more beneficial for both myself and my child when my time comes to retire. I’ve shown up for every deployment, I’ve worked my ass off and deserve EVERY medal Ive received. My parents have been great with lending assistance if need be and on two occasions that meant $800 in lady minute airfare, but I made a commitment and swore to protect the united states against all enemies. My husband was a single dad when we met and he too has spent a lot of time deployed. Neither of us have ever received support from the other parent, but we’ve always done what was asked. These are TWO stories out of millions. TWO examples of single mothers being a liability. That would be like counting the number of people who frequent your blog and allowing that number to represent the amount of people who use the Internet. Oh and one last thing, I pay over $15,000 a year in childcare out of MY pocket so I very much take offense to the assumption my childcare is covered by others.

SecretSquirrel on November 5, 2012 at 10:07 pm

I am a single mother in the military. And the woman in this story is so unlikely to happen often. Single parents and dual military parents are required by the ucmj to have a family care plan, in the case they have to be deployed they have someone to care for their children. This young lady just wasn’t smart. The minute your care plan (an official document) doesn’t fit your needs you can request to be separated for the service it’s may take some time but that’s why you inform your command things in advance so they won’t assign you a deployment and process you out. And the military knows of such scams of ppl using children to get out. If you are constantly pregnant after gettjg word of a deployment date the you could go to NJP for that and possibly get kicked out. Do not speak on every single mother in the military bc I do my job damn well and I am very dedicated to responsibilities as a mother. Most people chose the military as a way to provide for their children. Let me guess if single parents weren’t in the military extremely blessed with benefits you’d be blogging about lazy single mothers using your tax dollars for food stamps and government benefits and lets not then be black or Hispanic you’d have a field day on that shit. And we do not use your tax dollars for a damn thing bc I sure as hell pay well over 5,000 for one child a year in daycare expenses.

Ruby on December 6, 2012 at 4:26 pm

I am a single mother waiting to go to basic training… You’re an idiot!! I am doing it to provide a better life for me & my son. So what if you, yourself wouldn’t do it? I’m doing it for my son. If I die it is in gods hands and my son will be well taken care of by his grandparents and will know that I died trying to make a better life for him. Women arent allowed in combat anyways. what about the incompetent men? it goes both ways!! Navy, baby!! Hooyah!!!!!!!!!

Future sailor on January 5, 2013 at 1:33 am

I believe that if you’ve never been in the army or around the Army then you have no idea what it’s really like. My mother was a single parent in the Army and still preformed her job and raised me and deployed. I would also like to state that I turned out just fine. I’m currently in the Army also.

Taylor on July 24, 2013 at 8:08 pm

You are an idiot. You just lowered my IQ by ten points with all of your pointless bantering. WOW!

Benjamin on August 17, 2013 at 10:47 am

I only wish I hadn’t given you revenue through your advertisers by clicking on your link. Clearly you’re hoping unfair harsh criticism will stir controversy and push you into fame. I can’t wait until you have children and start to struggle with your body and loss of person freedom. Seriously, you’re a horrible person. It’s not even so much what you say, it’s how you say it. Clearly you have no capacity to empathize with others. I almost pity you. Almost.

Annon on October 26, 2013 at 9:01 am

WOW. I find this very shocking and disrespectful. I have been enlisted for FOUR years now, and have survived TWO tours. You point out individuals who have problems shooting their weapons…and all the other stupid crap you talked about. I happen to shoot better than 3/4 of the men in my unit. I do my job very well, because I take it very seriously. I’ve gotten many awards and medals throughout my career thus far. I’ve earned my rank. I SAVED MENS LIVES. Deployment isn’t easy at all, and just because USELESS, dependent women such as yourself can’t handle it, doesn’t mean none of us can. I am a very very strong woman. Strong enough to take on this job, one so few can handle, as well as being a mother. My daughter understands the life we have, and she knows I am not a bad person for doing the most important job this country has.

YOURE WELCOME FOR MY SERVICE. B*TCH.

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